Choosing To Die – A Personal Story

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VSED book

“Shacter’s book is more than a wife’s chronicle of abiding love, immeasurable courage and unwavering commitment as her husband journeys toward death. It is also a passionate appeal for us all to claim our right to die with dignity. Even more, this book is a profound personal account of a couple’s struggle to conquer the fear of death.”
— Julia Assante, PhD, Author

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Phyllis Shacter courageously shares the first personal story ever written about Voluntarily Stopping Eating and Drinking (VSED). This memoir and guidebook follows the journey she took with her husband, Alan. Alan decided to VSED – so he didn’t have to live into the late stages of Alzheimer’s disease.

This is their love story, their partnership, the brave territory they traversed, including how they prepared themselves with proper medical and legal guidance when electing to VSED. Choosing to Die is filled with emotional depth and sensitivity as well as practical information outlining the process from beginning to end.

Phyllis shares every detail, including what Alan experienced during the nine-and-a-half days it took for him to die, and how the experience transformed Phyllis. This book provides a deeper understanding of end of life choices, and for those diagnosed with a degenerative disease.

Phyllis Shacter is a retired teacher, business consultant, life coach, and public speaker. Choosing to Die and are the most comprehensive resources on the subject of VSED available today.